Substance Use Disorder and Summer Social Pressure

 Summer is a time to kick back, relax, and spend time with friends at the pool, at barbecues, or other social gatherings. Unfortunately, plenty of these gatherings feature alcohol or recreational drugs, like marijuana, as part of the experience. In such social settings, it can feel awkward or even rude to abstain.

Not surprisingly, for people with substance use disorder (SUD), these feelings can be especially challenging to navigate. When substance use is seen as part of “having a good time,” those who choose not to participate may feel left out or pressured to partake. In turn, feelings of isolation can lead to mounting sadness and depression — and an increased urge to use alcohol or drugs.

At Conduit Behavioral Health, Temika Heyward, PhD, FNP, CRNP, PMH, and her team help women and men overcome substance use disorder with psychotherapy, medication, and ongoing support focused on each person’s unique challenges. In this post, learn what you can do to navigate these often-tricky social events and stick to your own goals without feeling uncomfortable.

1. Know your triggers ahead of time

Before heading out to your event, consider what triggers stress for you. Will people be there who make you anxious or set you off in other ways? Is the setting or environment problematic? 

If you feel any aspect of the event could result in you reaching for a drink or using drugs, permit yourself to skip the event or to attend for only a brief time. Bottom line: Being proactive and planning ahead of time can dramatically reduce the risk of being reactive and turning to alcohol or drugs.

2. Bring a nonalcoholic drink to share

Many people bring something to share at social gatherings, so bringing a nonalcoholic beverage is a natural way to ensure you have a way to participate without indulging in alcohol. Plus, most people aren’t going to know one way or the other if the drink in your hand contains alcohol, making it easier to avoid questions about your abstinence.

3. Find your support

Most gatherings have at least one other person who isn’t indulging, or maybe someone is attending who knows you don’t indulge. All it takes is one person to help you feel more comfortable.

4. Redefine “fun”

Unfortunately, many people equate fun with drinking or using drugs — but the good news is, there are plenty of people who don’t. Before attending your event, think about the other ways to enjoy life — ways that don’t involve alcohol or drugs. This simple exercise helps you redefine your goals as you move through your recovery journey.

5. Don’t search for explanations

Expect that at least some people will ask why you’re not indulging, and be prepared to reply in a positive, upbeat manner. You don’t owe anyone an explanation, and usually, a simple, “Not tonight,” “I’m driving,” or “That’s not part of my life anymore,” is more than enough.

6. Plan to wind down afterward

Any kind of social gathering can stir up emotions — even events where alcohol and drugs don’t play a starring role. Once you get home, take some time to unwind: take a bath, listen to music, watch a favorite movie, or journal about your success. Take a moment to celebrate your dedication to your journey and your healthy lifestyle.

7. Put yourself first

Finally, remember: It’s your life, not anyone else’s. When you follow your path, there’s no need to feel guilty and no need to apologize. Choosing your well-being over the expectations or opinions of other people is something to celebrate, not regret.

If you or a loved one needs help with a substance use issue, we can help. To learn more, request an appointment online or over the phone with Dr. Heyward and the team at Conduit Behavioral Health in Baltimore, Maryland, today.